Get Over Your Shyness by Blocking Out “Me/Always/Everything” Thinking

If you consider yourself a shy or awkward person, the encounters you’ve had were probably far less awkward than you thought they were. You can build a little self confidence and dispel some shyness by re-evaluating your social encounters in a positive light.

This is also known as “me/always/everything” thinking. A shy person with a me/always/everything mindset automatically believes that when a social encounter goes less than ideally, he is the one who caused the problem (me), that he invariably makes social encounters awkward (always), and that his social faux pas undermine all aspects of his life (everything). If the shy person were to actually sit down and think things through, he’d likely discover that oftentimes it’s not his fault when a social encounter goes awkwardly…

Me/always/everything thinking—a concept developed by psychologist Martin Seligman—is a trap that many shy folks fall into.

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